Friday, December 6, 2013

How To Deal With People You Don't Like

How To Deal With People You Don't Like

Why I Chose Maslow's hierarchy of needs for the post's main picture, is because it can teach us a lot about people. I'm sure at some point in your life you haven't been completely happy. It's because one of the things above were violated either by a death, loss of a relationship, etc. When you were  feeling miserable how did you act? Do you remember?

Everyone else sure does.

The point I am trying to get at here, is that when someone treats you horribly it's not normally just to screw with you. It will have a deeper meaning than that. Could be jealousy, instability at home, lack of respect, or many more things. (sounds cliche)

A quote I remember from the book The Art Of War written by sun tszu is that when you fake weakness it means you are hiding strength, but when you fake strength it means you hide weakness. Most people pick on you to make themselves feel better about themselves. They might not even realize that they are doing it either. 

When you understand these facts, it can be a lot easier to sympathize with those who harass you. That doesn't mean you should let them, but understand why they do it. Of course you might be in a situation where you can't do anything about their harassment. If that's the case then just ignore everything they say. It's a lot easier than you think. Just let it go.

If you are in school like me when all of this had to be learned the hard way, then you are probably worried a little too much about your social standing. If you think about it how often do you think about people at school (not the ones that pick on you). Probably not very often unless you are friends with them and hang out a lot. I'm talking more about the people you hardly talk to.

Well, if you hardly ever think about them or worry about them why would they to you? Your social standing in school might matter then but once you leave all of it becomes irrelevant.

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